Emotional Intelligence - How To Develop This Skill
Introduction
Imagine a world where no one understands anyone else's feelings or hidden emotional motives? I think the forests will then be safer! We need emotional intelligence, we may pose a danger to ourselves and others if we do not realize the magnitude of responsibility for our feelings and behavior.
On any normal day, you happen to find yourself automatically turning to one particular friend alone when you feel angry or upset. Or you might find a manager who, if under a lot of pressure, still behaves intelligently and organized, without insult or resounding emotion.
This friend and that manager are examples of individuals with emotional intelligence. Because of these emotional features, you see this friend attracting those who need support and understanding. You see that manager or leader as boosting confidence in his subordinates and giving them the freedom to innovate and debate.
Health and psychiatry experts have combined these features in what is known as emotional intelligence.
To also have these features, you should first know what emotional intelligence is, then learn how to develop it and benefit from it practically, socially, and even cognitively.
What is Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence means being able to understand and manage your feelings positively, helping you control your relationships with others as well, and making you able to make decisions clearly without being affected by any stress or stress, because by emotional intelligence you will have the ability to control any negative feeling, thereby ensuring proper thinking.
Psychologists suggest that this type of intelligence is acquired by training and habitation, while some are likely to be an inherent feature of an individual's character and even describe it as more important than Intelligence Quotient - IQ.
The value of Emotional Intelligence is that:
- Promotes individuals' understanding and understanding of their feelings first, then control and healthily express them.
- They can understand the feelings of others, and the reasons why they respond and act in certain ways.
- Conclude the right way to deal with these others morally and practically.
The four aspects of Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence is about feelings, so it can be divided into two parts, and each part has two components, the first part is your own on a personal level and your feelings from within you, and the second part is about people, your dealings with them, and the feelings associated with them.
1- Self-management
The first pillar of emotional intelligence is your ability to manage yourself, i.e. control feelings and not rush because of the different situations that occur with you, and thus deal with your emotions healthily, by solving crises that occur, and adapting to any circumstances you face without allowing them to negatively affect your life, but understand, accept and control them quickly.
2- Self-awareness
One of the most important parts of emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize feelings within you, and how they affect your thoughts and behaviors in dealing. This requires knowing your strengths and weaknesses, and this point is specifically misunderstood by many, some believe that knowing strengths and weaknesses should occur through others, for fear of falling into the category of vanity when a person says he or she has certain strengths, as well as the tendency of some to overestimate themselves positively or negatively.
In fact, self-awareness is very important to you in your life, you know the things that affect you better than others, so you will have a full understanding of everything that happens with you and its causes, and therefore the possibility of identifying strengths and weaknesses, you can observe them through the different situations that you go through in your life or the experiences you are doing in your life.
3- Social awareness
Social awareness is the third pillar of emotional intelligence, and it concerns the people around you, which means that you can empathize with them and understand their feelings, needs, and fears well, and you can understand the reasons behind individual actions. You can employ this social awareness in the work environment in your dealings with others.
4- Relationship management:
The last aspect of emotional intelligence is the ability to deal with relationships with others, manage and develop them for the better, how to influence others and work with them in a team, and not allow conflicts to emerge.
Emotional Intelligence: How do you develop it and benefit from it in practice?
Among the rest of the other soft skills, emotional intelligence is at the forefront and is becoming more common in the labor market day by day.
In fact, it is not a new wave of popularity, but a skill that has proven effective in the performance of corporate teams, but rather of companies as a whole in productivity and sales.
A team of emotionally intelligent members who practice it together in their usual professional or human dealings achieves more results and effective than others;
Whether you work for a company or remotely, the following skills will help you know the importance of emotional intelligence and how it develops and benefits from it in practice:
1. Find out what provokes your feelings
All of us, without exception, have something to stir our nerves and provoke our feelings. As we agreed, emotionally intelligent people know themselves and the triggers of their feelings.
If you want to develop your emotional intelligence and make practical use of it in your work, watch your thoughts and feelings and learn about their causes. Those are the reasons why you feel angry, frustrated, hurt, or even pleased.
Only then will you be able to understand and manage them, and that's what takes us to the second point.
2. Learn how to control
The second step of being aware of your feelings is to manage and control them in different circumstances, and don't let them control you or your behavior.
Learn to stay calm in dead and troubling situations. You'll end up with a little bit, and you'll be able to get your feelings out at the right time in the right way. Focus on getting out of the situation with the best result and by rationality focusing on the goal.
Any emotion you get when you're nervous or angry probably won't be in your best interest, and your decisions and judgments will be impulsive, which you don't want.
Breathe and meditate for even a minute, and stay away from instantaneous reactions.
I don't mean to act violently or rudely, but to express your opinion or request some pieces and firmness to others, while maintaining the same respect and appreciation for others.
Remember that no one will read your thoughts and that people may confuse kindness with hesitation or doubt, so speak with confidence and confirmation of what you want or mean so that others don't misunderstand you or carry your point in another way.
4. Listen carefully
In conversations and discussions, especially sharp ones, don't listen to wait for the other to finish talking. Listen carefully and focus on what he says to make sure you fully understand what he says (and most importantly: he means it).
Leave space for others to speak and express their opinions and views. Pay attention to the language of their bodies, the expressions of their faces, and even the beard and the tone of their voices. You know how meaning changes just in the way it's said.
5. Help solve problems
If you want to develop your emotional intelligence and benefit from it in practice and personally, learn how to solve problems and crises.
Remove your feelings and emotions before making any decision that may be destructive, offensive to others, or even in the interest of work.
- Always remember that the problem happened and there is no way back.
- Take the person who caused the problem in your class because you are most familiar with how to solve it.
- Focus your thinking and energy on finding solutions.
- Don't start with punishment, but it's for it until you've solved the problem.
6. Learn when to leave the debate
Discussions happen to rage into skirmishes, and instead of exchanging views for collective success, the focus turns to self-victory.
When you find yourself in a situation like this, and you find that the way you debate or debate goes beyond your limits or even you don't like it, you can withdraw and apologize for continuing it.
Don't be ashamed to ask yourself time to think, either for minutes or for a whole day. Focus on calming yourself first to avoid any emotion, and secondly think about solving the problem and making a proper and effective decision for yourself and the team.
As we said earlier, empathy is one of the most important features of emotionally intelligent people. Empathy means not only sympathy for hungry stray animals, but also for everyone and in all situations.
Try to put yourself in the position of others to know the reason and motivation of their positions, to be able to understand them properly, and then to provide the right support and response to each situation.
You may not like that a colleague is late in responding to your request or mail to complete the work, but when you know that he has many other tasks or that he has a health or family problem, you will certainly sympathize with him, offer your help or take care of the work on your own.
The most important feeling with sympathy, it's his practice.
8. Accept criticism
If you want to develop and make the most of your emotional intelligence, I offer you the hardest skill in emotional intelligence skills and accept criticism.
Hearing criticism is not exactly the best thing you're exposed to. But before you take the position of defense and motivation to attack or respond to this criticism, take a step back and listen to the criticism and analyze it objectively.
Think about the motivations that give you criticism, maybe he wants to convey the idea of its content that increases the effectiveness and efficiency of your performance at work. Yes, criticism is bad taste, but maybe there's only one idea behind it that'll do you good.
Conclusion
In the end, having separated us from what emotional intelligence is and how it develops and benefits from it in practice, it's time to put this knowledge and steps into practice and implementation.
I'm not saying it's easy or it doesn't take a long time, time, and patience to own, but as they say, the journey is on the way. On your way to practice emotional intelligence, you'll learn how to treat others intelligently and become a better version of yourself.
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