Characteristics of people who crave Love: Definition, Rules, and Basis of Love
Introduction
A person cannot live happily without a toxic goal in life that he seeks to achieve or maintain, and love of all kinds plays an important role in this where the person tends to take care of who he loves whether it is his partner in life, his parents, his children, or his friends, and since the feeling of love gives the motive to see the beloved happy and satisfied, the loving person takes care of what he loves and helps him to accomplish his work and achieve his ambitions, thus enhancing the person's sense of life and beauty, in addition to that Man likes to feel the need of his love for him and rejoices at being by his side, it encourages him to do more, give him the strength to overcome the difficulties of life, and increases his sense of inspiration to achieve the works in a better and more creative way, so that the other side loves him more, and to live the life also in a better and more accomplished way.
Many people consider that entering into a healthy love relationship is one way to live happily and satisfied, and the feeling of happiness in most of them is associated with receiving love and giving it as well, and many may lose sight of it when people ask about the reasons for the happiness they may answer that getting love is their source, but they often overlook that caring for the loved one and providing help to others is also a source of happiness, and this may be the result of ideas that people are exposed to from the media and educators most of the time which Happiness is shown when receiving love and care or when an individual is at the center of attention, and it is known that feeling of love makes a person generous and wants to give his loved one the things he wants, and he feels happy as a result of his beloved's happiness.
“We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot live without human affection.”
-Dalai Lama-
Contents:
- Definition of Love.
- Rules of Love.
- Basis of Love
- Characteristics of people who crave Love
1. Definition of love
Love is a deep emotional attitude through which one is attracted to a particular person without restrictions or clear ties, where he has a series of complex feelings that make him love what he does, the way he thinks, the personality that distinguishes him, as he admires his appearance and qualities, although all of them are ordinary qualities for others, they are in his view unique attractions that make him an important person, enjoy his presence in his life, want to preserve it, give him tenderness and kindness, improve his treatment, and court him; the umbrella of the great love that binds their hearts.
2. Rules of Love
Love controls many important rules that make relationships clearer, and help one ascertain and understand one's feelings more, to ensure that their relationships succeed later, including:
- Honesty: One must be honest with one's lover and resort to being honest with different facts and things, provided that it is politely and gently that does not hurt or disturb one's feelings.
- Privacy: The relationship requires some secrets and special things between the two lovers that should not be spoken to and respected in front of others, and must be agreed in advance to keep them in particular and participate only between them.
- Longing: The longing promotes feelings of appreciation and love between the two lovers, develops feelings of love, affection, and loss towards the lover during his absence, and the other party feels its great and distinctive position and therefore strives to preserve it.
- Trust and sincerity: Trust is a key rule that supports and promotes the continuation of a love relationship, so lovers must recognize its importance, seek to document it, and show loyalty and loyalty to the partner to maintain a healthy and stable relationship with it.
- Recognition of love: Normally, one should not hesitate to recognize one's lover constantly, such as saying "I love you" and expressing emotion in various other verbal terms, as well as to prove and document this love with deeds as well.
- Good handling: Each of the lovers is supposed to support the other side, and deal with it with goodwill and good faith, and decently regardless of the differences and obstacles they face, good communication is the key to hearts, and the great love that brings them together forces them to respect each other and deal with each other politely and tastefully.
- Equality: When two people are connected and enter into a real love relationship, neither of them tries to control or own the other, or control the relationship alone and try to spread its power and control over the other, love is a relationship of participation and harmony that obliges both to work together equally to ensure its success and continuity.
3. Basis of Love
Love is based on several important foundations that support relationships, enhance their stability and balance, including:
Having strong feelings that attract a person to his partner:
When you encounter someone special and your feelings are immediately attracted to them, or overtime, the nerve engines in the brain stimulate the hormones responsible for increasing your sense of pleasure and happiness, giving them a great sense of satisfaction and psychological comfort when meeting the lover, and limiting their rational thinking that helps to evaluate their partner wiser and logically, thus always craving his proximity and friendliness regardless of his personality, to maintain those warm feelings that increase in quantity and motivation as communication and compatibility increase.
A person's ability to give and receive those feelings:
One must respect oneself, begin with self-love, feel internal satisfaction and full conviction before starting to offer feelings of love and giving to others, since a person who suffers from the problem of dissatisfaction with oneself and is unable to appreciate and respect himself, may later suffer problems in attracting the respect and love of one's partner, because love is the possibility of receiving and giving one the deep and warm feelings that both lovers need, and one's inability to give oneself the love and sufficient respect you need to feel comfortable and stable. Internally, it will be difficult for him to receive and give those feelings to someone else, and one's balance stems from one's self-confidence, acceptance of his personality and self-satisfaction, and honesty from within, which are important attractions that the lover looks at, and do not forget the need to appreciate the partner as well and his commitment to him, diligence in attention, acceptance of giving, and respect and love for him.
Good communication between the two partners and depth of relationship:
Over time, the continuation of the relationship with the beloved requires regular and meaningful communication between them, and the use of good communication methods is important, which is one of the basics of love that develops and consolidates and adopts the relationship over time, in the following ways:
- Diligence in satisfying the beloved and maintaining a good relationship with him, by understanding him, caring for him, reminding him because of his love for him, and showing gratitude to him.
- Flirting with the lover and using romance and distinctive ways to express the feelings of love that his partner has, not only feeling them internally but showing them and speaking out about them.
- Add adventurous and surprising elements to the relationship, break the boredom, introduce pleasure and entertainment to the heart of the partners, and promote the feelings of happiness, familiarity, and harmony that constantly bind them.
Not to be influenced by circumstances, obstacles, and the preservation of honest feelings:
The feeling of fascination towards the lover is limited overtime to some, unlike their feelings at the beginning, which is at its peak, as one may see one's partner attractive and unmistakable, free of defects and negatives, but as the relationship progresses and deepens it, and spends a lot of time with him, and communicates continuously may discover some things contrary to his initial view of him, and here he must be honest with himself and logical in his thinking; The basis for the continuation of love is the understanding that lovers must overlook each other's slips, accept their personalities, not insist on a change to satisfy their desires, and the person in return must maintain his personality, be satisfied with himself and accept them as mentioned earlier, noting that change may be a necessary need when one has negative qualities that affect his relationships and the way one loves and must accept criticism. in this case and evaluate his behavior.
4. Characteristics of people who crave Love
People who have a strong desire for love often lack affection in childhood. If this continues untreated, it can lead to many heartbreaks.
People who yearn for love often do so because they grew up without emotion or emotional familiarity. We're talking about people who need to be in someone's arms and hear words of love or simply never feel the emotion around them.
People who grow up lacking affection go through their lives waiting for the wound to heal. The problem is that they think they need others to heal. But only self-acceptance and self-love can help them heal.
These people often confuse these two things with love and acceptance from others. Of course, there is nothing wrong with wanting love and acceptance from the outside, but it's more problematic when it comes to people who lack affection. This is because they are trying to make up for the lack of affection and find self-love through others.
People who yearn for love often create situations that actually increase the void they feel inside them. This is a complex psychological problem that requires psychological assistance.
Here are seven characteristics of people who feel this urgent need for love:
1. Obsession with affection
People who yearn for love place great importance on affection. They may even think that nothing else matters. Thus, a kind of fire shines inside them when someone else shows them affection.
They really find it difficult to let affection come and go normally. Just thinking about receiving them makes them worried. They feel excited and terrified because of him and often become obsessed with him.
2. They try to control people
It is also common for people who yearn for love to become possessive and in control with people who show them affection. They are not necessarily trying to control the other person's life. They do this just because they want to avoid their pain.
These people tend to unconsciously believe that if they keep this person's insight, they will never lose him. Fear of abandonment and betrayal (as a result of their emotional wound) makes them eager to control. But this often leads to disagreement or disintegration.
3. They’re demanding
People who have not received true love find it difficult to believe it later in their lives. Therefore, they demand to show affection continuously. They can become very demanding with partners or anyone with whom they have an emotional relationship.
For example, they might say things like: "You needed to be there, but you weren't" or "You wish you'd do something special, but you didn't." They consider love to be absolute and unconditional. But even a mother can't give you that.
4. They beg for affection
People who yearn for love are required but also tend to let a lot of things slip. For them, everything is better than losing the person they love. Thus, they often ignore their own needs and well-being.
If they think the other person is away, they will do almost anything so they don't lose it. They feel worthless and believe that the love of the other person gives value to their lives. This means they will tolerate abuse if they have to.
5. They make too many sacrifices
These people also make love more dramatic and painful than it should be. They are so grateful to someone who loves them that they will make all sorts of sacrifices to please them.
Love means having to make sacrifices sometimes, we don't deny it. But these people take it to the extreme. They act like the other person is the only person who enjoys rights and privileges, as if they were the only ones who should give.
6. They don’t trust the other person
No matter how hard it is to try, people who yearn for love cannot trust others. They are constantly suspicious, and this gradually weakens their ties. They always expect to give them up or get hurt, and that's what they see.
Their distrust is so intense that they can even start seeing good things as bad or vice versa. They are looking for ulterior motives, hidden agendas, and conspiracies everywhere. It's all part of their huge fear of being hurt.
7. They accept the unacceptable
Abuse in any way is unacceptable. Unfortunately, a lack of emotion often drives people to a cycle where they accept this kind of behavior from people with whom they have an emotional relationship.
They cannot distinguish between disagreement or conflict and arbitrary attitude. They may be angry at nothing but also accept physical and mental abuse.
It is a very contradictory situation. People who yearn for love are looking for it from others to try to bridge the gap within them. But because they lack self-love, they become sad after heartbreak. That's why professional assistance is important in these cases.
Conclusion
Love helps to discover oneself more, the loving person shows his ability to accept the other party, patience for the positions of life with him, and increases his ability to tolerate, and shows his spontaneous reactions in front of one's lover without making, through the reflection of the human personality that love offers can be considered a mirror of his lover so that it helps him to increase his awareness towards aspects of his personality and discover a lot about it, and the presence of mutual love encourages him to improve and develop his personality where the beloved person speaks about his lover so that he can help him increase his awareness towards aspects of his personality and discover a lot about it, and the presence of mutual love encourages him to improve and develop his personality where the beloved person speaks about his wrong actions, alerting him to the negative habits he performs, whether healthy or societal habits, and his awareness of its disadvantages and the importance of changing them, and finds the beloved person more strength and determination to move forward in life as a result of encouraging the lover, so it is easy for him to change his habits and improve his behavior.
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